The title to this blog was the theme song of my life. I had set such unrealistic standards on myself based upon what I thought would be pleasing to eyes of another. I placed myself in a trap that seemed impossible to get out of.
At 21 years old, I used to get Botox and temporary lip injections. AT TWENTY-ONE! I look back at my insanity and laugh. I didn’t even have wrinkles back then. What was I thinking? To be honest, I was seeking perfection. I thought that if I could look perfect then I would be loved and accepted, but my insecurities had an adverse effect. They kept me in isolation, because confidence is what attracts others, insecurities push them away.
I do believe that our generation has acquired a stigma of what a man and woman should look like. But who sets this standard? Is it society or is it us? Yes, the media constantly plants seeds of what a perfect (photo shopped) human being looks like, but we choose to water those seeds. We allow society to dictate what we should look like, but it doesn’t have to be this way.
I believe a form of freedom comes from self-love and confidence. Confidence is when you can admire another man or woman’s physique and not feel any less valuable for not looking as thin, muscular or as curvy as they do.
I want to encourage you today to practice self-love! Love yourself right where you are. If you are unhappy about your appearance then work to change it, but do not allow it to consume you and never feel like your appearance makes you more or less worthy than the next person. Confidence is an inside out thing, not an outside in. This means that regardless of your imperfections, you can still love yourself. You are worth more than your bra size, more than your “gains”, and more than your pant size.
Every morning, I want you to look in the mirror and say, “I love myself, I love others, I am loved, I am chosen, I am valuable, I am worthy, I am strong, I am confident, and I am absolutely amazing!” You will eventually believe the words that you speak and please rebuke any and every insecure thought that pops into your mind. Insecure thoughts are not apart of your DNA, rebuke them.
I love 1 Samuel 16:7 – “But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."
Do you realize that your appearance has nothing to do with the way God see’s you? Your appearance does not affect your calling nor your purpose. I don’t say this as an excuse to become unhealthy. God has only given us one body and I believe that we should take care of what He has given us. However, I do say this to free your mind, because if God is in control of your destiny, then who cares about what other people think of you? You keep living your life for God and everything else will work itself out.
You Are So Loved, Brittni De La Mora