Abuse: treat a person with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.
It’s unfortunate that childhood abuse is as common as it is and if you have experienced it, whether physical, verbal, or sexual, I want to say that I am sorry for what happened to you. No excuse in the world could excuse what that person did to you, but I want you to know that there is still hope for you. You do not have to be a product of what you went through. You can and will overcome the emotional trauma that you experienced and I want to help you get through it.
I have experienced much abuse in my lifetime, mostly verbal. Abuse in any form is detrimental to one’s well-being. Abuse will make one feel inferior, insecure, unworthy and unlovable. This is a classic attack of Satan, to make a child of God feel like they don’t belong. Satan wants you to question who you are so that you can’t act out who you truly are. If you don’t know that you are worthy, then you will act unworthy. If you don’t know that you are fully accepted, then you will act rejected. So, the enemy will put people in your life (even as a child) to mistreat you so that you will end up lost and confused. He does this because he doesn’t want you to live out God’s call for your life, he wants you to live out his call for your life, so as a child he begins fighting for your soul.
When I was a child, I hated my life, but now, I thank God for my childhood. As horrific as it may have been for me at times, Genesis 50:20 says, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for my good. He brought me to this position so that I could save the lives of many people.” My ministry has been effective because I have been broken in life. I have a huge heart for people because I know what it’s like to be in a low place in life. I know what it is like to be mistreated so I will never mistreat anybody else. The enemy intended to harm me with the abuse he sent my way, but God intended it for my good so that I could save the lives of many.
How did I get to this place in life? I had to forgive every person who abused me in life. This isn’t an easy thing to do, but with God it is possible. To be set free you must forgive, and to forgive you must view your abuser with merciful eyes. Like the old saying goes, “Hurting people will hurt people.” If that person hurt you, then ask yourself, “Who hurt them? What abuse have they gone through in life?” We need to begin to feel sorry for those whom have hurt us. If they truly knew better, they would have done better with you.
My abuse caused me to make inappropriate decisions. I ended up on drugs, in the porn industry and I became verbally abusive to people in my life. The same is true for those whom have abused you. The abuse that they endured caused them to abuse those around them. Today, let’s choose to give them grace. Let’s look at them with eyes of mercy. Let’s pray for them. Un-forgiveness is too great of a burden for you to carry. Give your cares to God, He cares for you.
Let’s pray together, “Heavenly father, I trust you. I trust that you are making all things work together for my good. I don’t want to hinder my calling any longer by holding onto un-forgiveness. So right now, I choose to forgive every person that has hurt me. I will no longer allow my past to dictate my future and I will not transfer my hurt onto others. Father, heal my heart and give me strength to help those in need. Jesus, you are my Lord and my Savior; lead my life and please fight for those whom have hurt me so that they can find you too. In Jesus name, Amen.
Love, Brittni De La Mora