This is such a taboo addiction simply because it is glorified in the world and not spoken about enough in the Church. Whether you’re a male or female, if you are addicted to porn, you are not alone. The Adult Industry is a multibillion dollar industry for a reason.
However, I don’t believe you came here for statistics. I believe you came here for help. As many of you know, I am a former Adult Star. I got into the industry at the age of 18. I did not have very much time to develop a porn addiction because I went straight into filming it.
However, what I have learned is that like any addiction pornography is an escape. It is an escape from boredom and an escape from pain. Addiction can bring forth an external euphoria that makes one forget about their internal trauma. Have you ever been heartbroken? Have you ever been rejected? Have you ever felt unloved or unlovable? Has it been challenging for you to truly forgive and let go of the pain that person has caused you? Because often a broken heart is most susceptible to an addiction.
The pain of a heart is real and out of the brokenness of one’s heart, one will look for healing or numbing wherever they can get it. For example, if you had a sever toothache but for some reason were unable to make it to the dentist, then I would imagine that you would take some Aspirin and put some Novocain on it until you could make it to the dentist. Right? You wouldn’t allow yourself to remain in pain, would you? The same is true for our heart’s. When our heart is in pain, but we can’t find the healer, then we will naturally look for a quick fix to numb the pain. Aspirin will not cure a toothache, only the dentist can do that. Pornography will not cure a heartache, only Jesus can do that.
If you are serious and would truly like help overcoming this addiction I would like for you to boldly pray this prayer,
“Father, I am powerless over this addiction, but you are not. I ask that you would forgive me of my sins and heal my broken heart. Right now, I forgive all whom have hurt me. Jesus, I make you my Lord and Savior and I pray that you would transform me and restore my purity and innocence to me. I command the spirit of addiction and lust to leave my life now in Jesus name. Lord I thank you because 2 Corinthians 5:17 calls me a new creation in Christ. The old has passed away and the new has come for me. I am a new creation. I am not a product of my past nor my mistakes. In Jesus name, Amen.”
If you prayed this prayer I would like to encourage you to take a few more steps so that you can walk in the victory that Christ has given you.
1 Get plugged into Church – Make friendships by serving in Ministry. If you’re new to all of this, send me a message & someone from my team can help you out.
2 Read the Bible – everyday. Pray – everyday. Worship with song – everyday. Google Hillsong United they have great worship music.
3 If you want stability, then you need accountability. Ask someone to hold you accountable (a leader in the Church would be a great choice.)
4 Check out https://www.xxxchurch.com they have a system that will block you from going onto pornographic websites.
5 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlkEyZb7d2A&t=11s - This is a great grace filled message, check it out.
6 Do Not feel ashamed. Jesus died to give us freedom over our mistakes so don’t allow your mistakes to hold you as a prisoner to your past. Walk into your future, and if you slip up, don’t beat yourself up. Just get back up again.
If you have any questions, we are here for you!
Brittni De La Mora