Overcoming an Addiction to Porn & Practicing Purity.

Overcoming an Addiction to Porn & Practicing Purity.

I was recently interviewed and God shared some fresh insight with me, so I wanted to pass it on to you! 

INT: We live in a pornographic age, from camming to on set porn production to sex-dating apps to phone-sex hotlines. How do you believe the gospel speaks into our sexualized lifestyles and culture? 

B: Clearly the Bible promotes purity and sex between a husband and wife. One of my favorite scriptures is Matthew 5:8. It says, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Purity can’t exist externally if does not first exist internally. You can be a virgin, yet have uncontrollable thoughts of lust. Being a virgin doesn’t make you pure, it’s the condition of your heart that makes you pure. Satan will do whatever he can to rob one of their purity. Why? Because without your purity, you can’t see God.

INT: What counsel do you have for people who are addicted to pornography?  

B: First and foremost, do not be ashamed of your addiction. This is a huge attack Satan places on the body of Christ because if you’re ashamed of your sin then you won’t ask for help. Therefore, you battle it alone and isolation is a dangerous place to be, because isolation gives Satan an open door to attack your mind.

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GIVEAWAY! Tell Us Your Love Story

GIVEAWAY! Tell Us Your Love Story

If you're in a relationship, I can't wait to hear your love story! Post a photo on instagram with your love story and hashtag #RichandBritt for a repost on our Insta Story! One couple will get a FREE copy of our NEW Book 31 Creative Ways to Love & Encourage Him & Her (Dating Edition). We co-authored this with Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke. Winner will be announced next Friday, June 29, 2018. By the way, this is ONE Giveaway. You can also enter to win our second giveaway by staying tuned to my instagram.

ENTRY RULES FOR THIS GIVEAWAY:

- You must be following @BrittniDeLaMora , @Richardelamora , & @RichandBritt on Instagram - I will be checking.

- You must post a photo of you and your love with your love story on Instagram and hashtag #RichandBritt

** Contest is open to United States Residents Only

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My Pain Has A Purpose - How To Grow Through Pain.

My Pain Has A Purpose - How To Grow Through Pain.

P•A•I•N - a four letter word every single one of us will face at some point in our lives. Though pain hurts in the moment and sometimes feels like there's no way out, somehow someway we all get through it. Why does pain exist in the world & does it always make sense? Abusive relationships, bad reports from the doctor, the sudden loss of a loved one.... All of these things we could do without, but pain, though it hurts, produces something in us that the good times never could. Pain gives us a superhero like strength and connects to every single human being on the face of this earth. You see, you might makes millions of dollars in your life time, but not everyone will. However, that time your heart was broken, trillions of people around globe can relate to that. Today, let's remind ourselves that our pain is far greater than us and our pain has a purpose to connect us to others who are in pain and will one day need a word of encouragement from someone, like yourself, who has been there. 

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A Word Of Encouragement For "All The Single Ladies".

A Word Of Encouragement For "All The Single Ladies".

Will I ever find the one? Are there still any good guys left? When will I ever get married? 

    Ladies, If you've ever asked these questions, I want you to know the answer is yes! However, it's imperative that you enjoy being single. There is a reason for every season of life and being single isn't a curse, it's a huge blessing! 

    Don't sit around waiting for your future husband, get up and make your future happen. On the inside of you there's a woman with a vision, a risk taker, and a conqueror. Dare to ask yourself, "Am I making the absolute most of this season? Do I recognize I am complete even without a man? Do I fully love myself just the way I am?" 

    Before Adam met Eve, God put him to work. Might I suggest that before you meet your "Adam" God wants to put you to work? Years before my husband and I began dating I dreamt about writing books, preaching, and starting businesses, but I didn't just dream... Step by step I got to work. As I began following the call God placed in my heart, He brought me the most amazing man who happened to have the same call on His life. 

    Genesis 2:18 says, "It is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him."

    If God desires to give us a helper who is comparable to us, then wouldn't you want to be the best version of you that you could possibly be? I bet you want someone comparable to the best version of you, not the "I could do better because I am not really trying" version of you.

    Ladies, there's nothing more attractive than a confident woman who knows what she's called to do in life. You'll discover your calling by seeking God daily, He wants to reveal all that He has for you. As you operate in your calling, your future husband will take notice of you. Just look at Ruth and Boaz. 

    Your husband is somewhere tangled up in the path of your calling unknowingly waiting for you to arrive. So be the go getter that God has called you to be and make some moves in 2018!

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How I Overcame Depression and Addiction.

How I Overcame Depression and Addiction.

Depression is a battle I faced for too many years. I truly didn't think it was possible to be joyous without the use of medication. I went to doctors for medication and when that didn't work, I self medicated myself into a full blown addiction. 

I find it interesting when I started seeking God daily, depression and addiction flee'd from me. God's presence brings love, soul healing & joy; all of which I needed to experience true freedom. 

If you battle with depression or addiction, don't believe the saying, "Once depressed always depressed" or "Once and addict always an addict". If you believe that, then you'll always be. But if you choose to believe that whom the son sets free is free indeed and that God can get you through the darkest nights with His love and light then you will encounter the same freedom as I and millions around the world have. Healing, joy, freedom, and peace await, in God's presence! 

Click Read More to Find Out How I Enter Into God's Presence Everyday!

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20 Things I Wish I Had Known When I Was 20.

20 Things I Wish I Had Known When I Was 20.
  1. Time Flies. Don't waste it. Too many times people said, "You're young, you have time." No you don't. Start Now! Life doesn't sit around and wait for you, so go out and make things happen. 
  2. What you're called to do in life is attached to what you love to do in life. 
  3. Who you surround yourself with matters. Do you want to succeed? Then hang out with others who understand the value of hard work. 
  4. Hard work pays off. Period. 
  5. You don't have to be a statistic. Just because you came from poverty doesn't mean you have to stay there. Get out and make things happen.
  6. Don't hold onto offense, it slowly kills you. Nobody wants to be around an offended person either, so you'll end up offended & alone. Release forgiveness. 
  7. Pride is a liar that destructs your future. Pride will keep you stuck in a season of life that you don't even want to be in, but you're too prideful to admit you need help. Be humble and doors will open for you.
  8. Money isn't everything, but it does bring an aspect of freedom. 
  9. Even if you make a mistake, God will work it together for your good if you love Him. So don't be afraid to make mistakes.
  10. Do Not spend all your paycheck in one place. Start saving money now. Don't wait.
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Heart-Broken Over Adult Star, August Ames.

Heart-Broken Over Adult Star, August Ames.

    I can only imagine the thoughts that must have been racing through her mind just minutes before she took her life. The fact that suicide was the answer for her says that she had no hope. She had lost hope of a better future and was stuck in a moment of life. I have been there. Losing hope is a dangerous place to be in life. This tragedy also tells me that she must not have had a vision in life, because we perish without a vision. If you don’t know where you’re going in life, then does your life have a purpose? I believe that every life has a purpose. August’s life had purpose. However, it is up to us to discover what our purpose in life is. I have found this challenging for most to understand what they are created for if they don’t have a relationship with the one who created them.

    I am not sure what kind of thoughts you were expecting to hear from me, but even as I type this, I am at a loss for words. I wish I could have had a conversation with August. I would have spoken hope, love and encouragement over her life. I would have reminded her that pain doesn’t last forever. I would have told her that her even pain has a purpose and that she can and will get through this. I would have told her that if she could just fight through, there is a God who has a great plan and purpose for her life and He so desperately wants to reveal it to her. I wish I could have been there for her.

    I read about much of the online bullying she endured and it sickens me that people can be so mean. I don’t blame one instance for anybody’s death, but because I’ve been in a deep state of depression, I know the attack she received didn’t help. We need to think twice about the way we treat people. You never know what someone may be going through. Please, understand that your words have the power to make or break someone.

   Today, I pray that we would be people who edify others. That we would speak and show love to those in need. Just because you don’t agree with someone, it doesn’t give you the right to bash them for it. Like the old saying goes, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” There is another saying that says, “Hurting people will hurt people.” If you can’t find it in your heart to love people and to be kind to them, then I encourage you to search within your own heart to discover why. Who hurt you in life? Who haven’t you forgiven? If we don’t learn to release forgiveness to those whom have hurt us, our hurt will ruin every relationship we enter. Our hurt will never allow us to live a fulfilled life.

    We also need to have selective hearing. There will always be critics and naysayers. We have to learn to be led by the right voices. Just because somebody speaks, doesn't mean you have to listen. When I transitioned out of the industry, I paid no mind to what others had to say. I encourage you to do the same. Don't allow people to bully you. The best response to these types of critics, is no response at all. You are so valuable, you don't need to spend one second of your time defending yourself. Let them think what they want. Brush your shoulders off and keep looking forward.

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